I was awestruck by the number of people who contacted me after my first post, telling me about their dreams. Due to this reaction, I felt that I needed a post to follow on from ‘Don’t dream your life, live your dreams’. In that post I encouraged you to chase your dream. If you’ve been fantasising about a dream for weeks, months or most probably years, but haven’t done anything about it. I challenge you to make it come true. However, if it were that easy, everyone would do it.
It’s hard work
In the process of chasing your dreams, you’re going to expose yourself to a lot of disappointment, a lot of failure and a lot of pain. There will be times where your plans just don’t work out for one reason or another, having sacrificed money and time. You’ll feel like your king has just been checked in a game of chess, but are unable to decipher a solution to the problem.
This is where the path splits, between those who are believers and those who are doubters. At this point, if you believe in yourself you will just bounce back, use the failure to motivate yourself and try even harder to make it happen OR you will just give up and decide that this dream of yours can’t materialize into physical existence.
Never be a doubter!
I believe the main reason for many people to end their journey here, is their fear of failure, but there are no stories of success without failure on the way. The struggles and failures you will encounter whilst trying to live your dream are only temporary, if you decide to give up now, you will always regret it. Don’t give up on your dream. Admit to yourself there will be hard times, but don’t worry, they will subside and success will take its place.
I have had to constantly battle with myself to keep on track. Currently I have just been through six months of winter training, constantly pushing myself, six days a week, to prepare for this competing season. The competitions have begun, and the first two have been a disaster not meeting my targets.
The failure I am feeling currently is huge, after all that time training, trying to improve my technique and strength.
I have started my competitions, worse than how I finished last season. However others around me are revelling in success, with their hard work already coming into fruition, in the form of new personal bests.
This is one of the moments I have tried to describe to you earlier where you will doubt yourself and want to give up. This is when you must fight and bounce back and that’s exactly what I will do. I refuse to allow my dreams to fail, and will only use the success of my fellow athletes to spur myself on.
The best way I find to move forward is by trying to find a positive from these situations.
For instance in this example, although initially quite difficult to think of. Last year after my second competition, I was already injured and couldn’t compete for another two months. Therefore, in that sense, this season has already been more successful. Now I have the opportunity to have a much longer season, to push forward and make the best of the countless competitions I missed last year.
The other thing, which I briefly mentioned in my first post, which is essential when having to battle through these hardships are the people that you surround yourself with. To begin with, I didn’t appreciate the importance of this. At the start, I had to believe in myself and trusted that as long as I always did, I would succeed.
I still believe in that notion, however there will be times where you do doubt yourself and the belief you have, will waver. These precious people will be there on the darkest days. When you can’t see the path anymore, they will gently take your hand and guide you back to the light. They will be there to put you back in that positive mindset and make you believe in yourself again. I don’t need to name drop anyone for this, you all know who you are and I want to thank you all for helping me on my way to achieving my dream so far.
I appreciate this post is quite raw and downbeat, but I’m not writing it to discourage you from following your dreams. I’m writing it to help you. I want to make you aware that there will be difficult times and hardships when chasing your dreams. It happens to everyone.
It isn’t a smooth road where your dream will just transpire with a click of your fingers. It takes work, there will be failures and obstacles that will get in your way and numerous things will happen to make you want to give up on your dream, but don’t give up.
“When you reach an obstacle, turn it into an opportunity. You have the choice. You can overcome and be a winner, or you can allow it to overcome you and be a loser. The choice is yours and yours alone. Refuse to throw in the towel. Go that extra mile that failures refuse to travel. It is far better to be exhausted from success than to be rested from failure.”
Mary Kay Ash.
If you want your dream to come true, it’s up to you. You have to believe in yourself and when you can’t find that belief, have others help you find it again. Keep chasing it and fight through those hard times. At the end of the tunnel is your dream, waiting for you to accomplish and enjoy in all its glory.
The achievement will only taste greater because of the obstacles you’ve had to battle your way through. So pull those socks up, buckle up your boots, and put your boxing gloves on. Fight for that dream and make it come true, you won’t regret it.
Feel free to leave a comment and let me know what your dream is!